Lists You Should Keep As Recommended By Couples Counseling Experts


There are numerous articles and therapists everywhere who talk about how being organized can help improve one’s physical and mental health. They said that being organized can reduce depression and anxiety. However, there comes a challenge on how to be more organized.

Cortisol, the so-called “stress hormone,” naturally decreases as the day progresses but clutters as a list of unfinished to-do lists pile up. However, this clutter prevents the said natural decline. Hence, despite wanting to be more organized, you can’t do it due to the ongoing stress you are experiencing.

So many lifestyle choices that we practice or neglect to practice ultimately affect how we feel each day and how we approach and respond to stress. — Marni Amsellem, PhD

Now, let’s talk about how keeping lists if they’re the right ones, are healthy for you to keep and can help you feel better in your day to day endeavors.


To-Do List


The good ‘ol fashioned to-do list. It’s very understandable why this might actually be a source of stress for some, but that’s possible because you’re not doing your to-do list right. We highly recommend breaking it down your responsibilities into certain categories like, for work, for the house, for the kids, for a certain group you’re a part of, and even a category for your friends and social life. Using a paper and pen is more therapeutic, but digital lists work just as well too!

Another tip is that within each category, organize them regarding urgency, or how soon these things should be completed and prioritized. We want you to feel like you have a good grasp on multiple aspects of your life, and here’s one way how.

Studies have shown that when a person is exposed to extended periods of excessive stress, the areas of the brain involved with sustained reasoning start to shrivel, the dendrites in the amygdala enlarge, and those in the prefrontal cortex shrink. — Sharie Stines, PsyD


This list is all about you. Maybe you saw an article, heard it on the television or it randomly popped into your head in the shower, but we want you to aspire and turn those aspirations into reality. Whether how easy or how difficult it is to achieve, take the next opportunity you can do add it to your checklist.

It can be wanting to start learning a language, sign up at a gym and enroll in a fitness class, attend a talk on good parenting, or finding a therapist or support group for your mental health. We encourage your self-development and want you to seize every opportunity.


Bucket List


We can all thank Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman for this one. What a simple concept, and yet it’s captured the minds of people around the globe. The idea is simple, there doesn’t have to be a logical reason or a specific plan. Just do things you’ve always wanted to do so won’t have to live with any regrets. We encourage you to get creative, and think of things beyond the usual “go skydiving” or “see the Northern lights.”

When we meet our career goals and dreams, we tend to believe the problems that might have originally pushed us to succeed will no longer bother us. — Ilene Strauss Cohen Ph.D.

Take some time to reflect especially on things you feel like you’ve missed out on, whether in your younger days or as a result of declining invites to do so. Rekindle friendships and find people also interested in ticking things off their bucket lists!


We hope it’s clear how the lists we’ve mentioned above help give you a sense of control, purpose, and ambition. Keep becoming the best version of yourself!