Making The Right Choices

According to the most “reliable” sources in the internet sphere, a person makes at least 35,000 decisions in 24 hours. As for children, they make 3,000 choices every single day. This number was reported in Quora, LinkedIn, and Thinking Business Blog, among others.

Your present reality is all you have, and all you need. Do your best to get in tune with what you are feeling and make the best choice you know how to make in the now considering what feels right. — Kim Egel, MFT, MA

We make quite many decisions on a daily basis. While some are small and pose little concerns, other choices that we make can be significant and life-altering. Some of the options will have a tremendous effect on our future, and this is why we need to think about our decisions well. Can you say to yourself that you have been making the better choices in life?



How to make the right choices.


You have to tackle significant things head on.


Every day, we make big decisions, and yet we act as if it’s ordinary and regular. We decide on critical matters in a flash which has a vital future after-effect like how to discipline your misbehaving child, turning left on a “no left turn” sign, eating seafood even if you’re allergic and more. These are vital matters to consider before deciding because if you were wrong, then, it can have an adverse consequence afterward.


Separate big things from little things. Don’t get distracted by irrelevant issues. If you focus on nonsense things, you won’t have the luxury to envision on what matters in your life.

Make values and principles at the center of your decisions.



Each one of us has a set of values and principles in life. If these are the core of your decisions in life, you will consistently achieve the right choices. The problems arise when you go against what is right and proper by deviating from your values. Usually, impulsive decisions will bring about regrets.


The past must have thought you a lesson.


It’s ok to make a mistake because the underlying principle here is that you’ve learned your lesson and you’ve forgiven yourself. Your personal experience is the most excellent teacher, but it doesn’t have to be yours all the time. If you see others making mistakes through their choices, don’t repeat it for yourself. Instead, apply the lessons you’ve learned so that you won’t have to bear the consequences.

The quality of our life mirrors the quality of our emotions. People, who experience excellence in their life, have developed the skill of emotional mastery. — Aldo Civico Ph.D.

Always aim to learn.


A person who is eager to learn will be considerate enough to make right decisions in life. People who are “know-it-all” will be most likely to falter. You don’t have to know everything overnight. If you are unsure, seek advice from those who are older and wiser than you. They may have the answers you seek.


Be neutral and open-minded before making a decision.


Jumping to conclusions will not lead you to the right path. View all the sides of a choice – the good points and the possible adverse points. What are the facts? How do you feel about this decision? “Listen” to yourself before you jump.


Stop putting off on things.


There is no perfect decision. It can be the best choice given the situation and the circumstance, but it’s never perfect. Stop putting off on things and just decide after adequate consideration.


It’s a done deal.



Once you’ve decided on a matter, there is no turning back. There should be no regrets. Don’t live in the past and say – what if, I should have done it differently or I made the wrong choice. No, don’t say that. Instead, just make it work in your favor and put everything in the “learning” bank. There’s no use crying over spilled milk.

Building confidence means taking small steps that leave a lasting sense of accomplishment. — Barbara Markway Ph.D.

You will have to make your own decisions and choices. No one can and will do it for you. Anyway, the essential thing in life is your happiness. Are you happy with how you made your choice? Did it make you a better person? What was the impact of your choice on you and the people around you? How are you now? Where are you going from here? These are the questions you need to ponder on after such significant decisions.