One of the things that you must always keep in mind is the significance of being patient when it comes to meeting and getting to know someone. Be polite whenever a person introduces himself to you. It is one of the essential skills that you must learn, primarily if you work in an industry where you are going to meet several people. Keep in mind that each person has a personality that may be different from others. Because of this, you cannot expect the same person to be perfect all the time.
In an ideal world, we would be in control of our lives and tailor them to our liking. In the real world, however, we are faced with messiness on a daily basis. — Ida Khamesy, MA, LMFT
In this article, our primary or main focus will be on the top reasons why you must not judge a person right away. When you meet someone for the first time, the ideal thing to do is to keep yourself away from noticing too many first impressions. Whether you like it or not, the truth is that you can never know someone’s story or background on the first time that you meet. The reality is that it takes days, weeks, or months before you can know the real personality of someone. Because of this, avoid giving negative comments or judgments. Here are the top reasons not to do it:
You Lack Information
As already pointed out above, there are many things that you probably do not know about the other person. Because of this, it would be unfair on his part to receive any of your negative judgments. Take note that you lack information about his entire life story. As such, if you are not sure with who he is, it is best to keep your mouth shut. Do not say something negative or anything that will make you regret it.
When evaluating someone else’s actions or personality, it is crucial that you understand where they are coming from, their perspective, history, and the experiences that went into the current situation. — Gregg Henriques Ph.D.
You Do Not Want To Feel Judged
Another thing that you have to instill in your mind is the fact that you also do not want to be judged. For this reason, it is best if you will refrain from commenting on the attitude or personality of the other individual. What will you feel if you are the one who is going to be subjected to ridicule? What if others will not like you on the first time you meet. Will it make you feel comfortable? Think about these the next time you are tempted to say something bad about a person.
You Are A Bigger Person
It is also time to remind yourself that you are a fantastic individual who wants nothing but the best for everyone. As such, it is great if you will learn how to show to everyone that you are a mature individual. Do not settle in just avoiding being a judgmental individual. At the same time, you must also see to it that you remind others of the importance of verifying facts or information first. Never say a comment about a person if you have no idea what you are talking about. Otherwise, you will only end up hurting the other person. Aside from this, you may also put yourself in a compromising situation.
Judging others might be our way of finding our place among others. When we form opinions about what we aspire to and what we disdain, we determine where we think we “fit” now, and perhaps where we would like to be in the future. — Laurie Leinwand, MA, LPC
The next time you meet someone, be sure to bring out the best version of yourself. Impress him or her with your kindness.