As people often say, “seize the day.”Although, this is much easier said than done. Often, we feel as though we do not have complete control over our lives; that our actions and decisions are being made for us by others. So how exactly do we take back command over ourselves?
Oddly enough, seeking help from another person may be the solution we need. An expert’s view gives us greater self-awareness and understanding. How exactly do they help us achieve this? Read on to find out.
Some people have a fixed theory, believing that their qualities, such as their intelligence, are simply fixed traits. Others have a malleable theory, believing that their most basic qualities can be developed through their efforts and education. — Shahram Heshmat Ph.D.
Helping You Let Go Of The Past
Coming to terms with events and experiences we have gone through may be a difficult task for even the strongest and wisest of people. We may hold onto grudges, loss or past mistakes.
However, it is true that to move forward; we must learn to let go of the past. Seeking professional help may prove itself valuable as experts often know how to interpret our personal histories, and help us deal with it. By recognizing what has happened, we learn to forgive and move on, learning from our previous experiences instead of completely forgetting them.
Affirming Your Achievements
Sometimes, we are not sure if our achievements are even noteworthy when comparing ourselves to our peers and colleagues. There’s always someone with a new life achievement or milestone to celebrate, while we may have smaller victories.
It is why we often seek validation from other people. Relying on others for this too much is ill-advised, although it is not always bad. When learning to build up self-esteem and self-empowerment, some encouragement, affirmation, and praise go a long way. Eventually, we learn to give ourselves credit for what we have attained, as well as our strengths.
When overdoing outweighs self-care, it’s time to invest in your own well-being. — Bryan E. Robinson Ph.D.
Identifying Areas That Need Improvement
Along with recognizing our strengths, we must come to realize and accept our weaknesses. It is in this way that we know where to start improving. It also gives us a greater insight of our entire being — seeing what we can and cannot yet do.
Admittedly, it may be difficult to pinpoint our weaker attributes. An outsider’s view, such as a counselor’s, provides an objective review of our abilities, and the ones we lack.
Discovering Your Triggers
There are moments where we may face self-doubt and feel a lack of power over ourselves. These moments may come about from built-up stress and insecurity, or it may have also been sparked by specific triggers.
By going to counseling, a professional can help you identify what prompts these moments of self-doubt and lack of empowerment. Perhaps it was creating a mistake, being reprimanded for one, or the stress of an impending deadline. Triggers can also be environmental factors such as noise or extreme heat. By uncovering what sets you off, you will know what to avoid, or how to deal with it before you completely lose all feelings of self-empowerment.
It can be hard, but it’s essential to reflect honestly on why you want to achieve a goal. Your reasons for wanting to achieve the goal are what will keep you going when times get tough. — Carl Beuke Ph.D.
Helping You Set Goals
Empowered people are go-getters, but we must first know what we want to get. It is not difficult to have dreams and aspirations, we have mastered this even as children. Even so, having attainable goals is another story.
Ever so often, we are encouraged to dream big; “the sky is the limit.” However, having huge aspirations may often lead to much frustration, and no work ends up getting done. It is thus wiser to remember to make goals SMART: specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely. Counselors may help us set smaller goals that will eventually lead to our dream achievements.