Some people have been told that they need to blend in if they want to get by in life. “The ones who came before you already knew how to live in this moment. All you need to do is follow their lead. You will be better for it,” they said.
I used to be a part of the same herd that listened to those individuals. I never had to make difficult decisions from childhood because my parents always decided for me. I believed that doing everything they told me would never lead me astray.
However, I woke up one day and realized that I was living their dream, not mine. People lived through me in some ways that I never realized, and it happened because I allowed it.
This revelation would have consumed my mental health and left me stuck in my head forever, if not for the little voice that told me to start taking the initiative. After all, it could do the following:
It Keeps Know-It-Alls From Running – And Ruining – Your Life
There are so many Mr. and Ms. Know-It-Alls in the world for starters, and they always prey on weak-minded individuals. They have made it their ultimate purpose to tell you everything you should do with your life. If you don’t, and your actions fail, it is easy for them to say, “I told you that my methods are better. You’re a fool for not heeding my advice.”
The reality is that being around such people can be genuinely smothering. They think they are more superior than you, and you may often need to walk on eggshells, even at your own place, to gain their approval.
In case you feel sick of following that routine, you must take the initiative to run your life by yourself. So what if you experience failures because of your decisions? Everybody makes mistakes – even know-it-alls. Not knowing what it feels like to fail may even be detrimental to your mental health.
It Shows That You Know What You Want And How To Get It
There is a thin yet definite line that separates leaders from followers. When a follower wants something, they usually stick to the leader and ask for their guidance or help to achieve it. But when a leader wants something, they go straight for the goal without waiting for anyone to show them how it’s done. Thus, leaders tend to succeed faster than followers.
Is it possible for followers to become leaders someday, you may ask?
Well, of course! Most – if not all – leaders started by following someone more successful than them. They merely managed to level up when they found the courage to change their fate and create a path for themselves. If you can do that, your future will undoubtedly be sweet.
It Feels Great To Know That You Have Accomplished Something On Your Own
I will always believe that “no man is an island.” We are nothing without our friends and family. In truth, even our foes help to shape our mindset and course of action. Despite that, it still feels incredible to know that you are capable of accomplishing whatever you put your mind into if no one else can help you.
For instance, my entire family had been saying that I ought to be a doctor because I was smart. I followed their advice for a while and got into med school, but then I realized that painting was my passion. Since my parents refused to help me unless I finished my degree – the one that no longer suited my dreams – I dropped out and moved out to start painting and looking for art galleries to curate my artworks. I suffered a lot from this decision financially, but if I didn’t take the initiative to realize my life goals, I would still be stuck in the med school.
It Makes You Independent, And That’s Admirable
Independence is another sign that you have positive mental health. After all, if you always need someone to tell you what to do and how you must do it, it probably means that you have low self-confidence. You don’t feel smart or wise enough to try something and think that another person should run your life for you.
But try to become independent for once, and you’ll see that the world is not as scary as you have once thought. Say, if you want to shop for new clothes, do it without waiting for your mother or friend to tell you that it’s okay. In case there is a vacancy for a higher position at work, apply for the job without needing to ask your colleagues for advice.
If you fail, that’s okay. Not taking the initiative is more awful than that.
Considering you have never taken the reins of your own life, suck up and do it now. You cannot depend on others to do it for you forever. That’s unhealthy, and perhaps even you know it.